Not going well

Kabbalah
We are built to receive pleasure for the least amount of work to obtain it.
We exist on an operating system, like a computer uses Windows and Nature uses Apple.
If we change our 'operating system' from receiving to bestowing we remove ourselves from the egocentric selfishness of "I" and unite with the universal "Creator" who gives without stint and out of love.

Okay...
here's the idiot's question
So you come from an abusive dysfunctional family, like the majority of western culture and you didnt ride your bike down a lane to a picket enclosed house to eat mom's homemade cookies. You didnt have a childhood filled with the 'toys' you now continue to look for as an 'adult'. In fact, what you may try to do is raise yourself, as you weren't raised by your own parents they were so busy with their own codependent misery. You get yourself thru college, get married, become religious, take care of your husband, home, kids, find your husband wont work...is that expectation of him working because one is wanting to "receive"?
Does one continue endlessly in an abusive situation, continuing to "bestow" the gifts of compassion, cleaning, cooking, love and care while being ignored, hit or verbally abused?

Let's look at work. All employers, mine at least, have the expectation that employees exist to bestow their existence for the good of making a profit for the company, hence the pockets/prestige of the boss. Does an employee who is underpaid (according to comparable positions in other companies as well as government statistics) remain silent and thankful the boss receives her bestowed labor year in and out despite illness and personal problems without ever asking if anything might be needed, not to mention a living wage?

So my first very irritated conclusions are:
How do we change the operating system within, when the outside continues to be corrupt and abusive?
For every action, there is a reaction.
If that is correct, then I live in a parallel universe where something is out of sync.

This material was written (this is my understanding of what he wrote, not verbatim) by someone named Michael Kellog on the Kabballah.org site. It's writing for someone completely frey or a detached way of thinking of I & Creator.

There is no detachment; there is only interference and the interference is not always the "I" it is in surviving THEM and what THEY present as obstacles in DAILY LIFE in a society. I dont mean drugs, promsicuity or that stuff, I mean what I wrote above.

If you spend all your energy to just stay alive, bestowing on others to fend off abuse, there comes a point when one begins to question many things...

What irritates me about what I read is I smell a cookie cutter THEORY, not a working plan.
So clearly I'm not getting it.